The foundation of successful parenting can be summed up in these two qualities: Unconditional Love and honest authority
While you won’t express these qualities perfectly at all times, if you make them your goal each day, you can expect that God will help you work towards them. He’s promised that as you grow in your Christian walk, the fruit of the Holy Spirit will become more and more evident in your life (Gal. 5:22-23).
When your children exhibit unwanted behavior, for instance, try to separate their actions from who they are. Seek to lovingly accept them, but all the time, making it clear their behavior is unacceptable. If you remind yourself your children are entrusted to you by God, then their behavior will not have the ability to sway you from loving them unconditionally.
The Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son whom he receives
Hebrews 12:6, ESV
In your walk with God, He must have had to steer you with a hand that may have felt painful and unfair at one time or the other, just as your discipline of your children will at times feel painful and unfair to them. In these situations, try to be compassionate with your children in their hurt and anger without relenting in the discipline that you know is best for them.
Unconditional love and honest authority will help your children to feel safe, cared for, and cherished. With constant encouragement, despite their failures, anger under discipline will diminish, and their love and respect for you will grow.